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I
have been looking everywhere for a list of things every man should know when he
leaves his parents home. I have found nothing. I have found plenty of things
about what little girls should know but nothing about boys. So.... with the help
of my husband, some homeschool friends, and with my own boys as guinea pigs ...
I am determined to make my own list. This is a work in progress, obviously, and
I will need all of your help. PLEASE ... if you think of anything to add, email
me. I will be trying to divide the list first into categories and then by
age and/or grade ranges. Maybe even throw in a few ideas on how to implement all
of this ... who knows! We will see
how it will develop. Maybe it will even turn into a book someday. Whatever God
has in store ... will be perfect for me! And so not to
exclude
anyone ... these ideas could also be used for little girls as well.
There
are quite a few books available written about boys but nothing has what I am
looking for exactly as I stated before. However, there are a few resources
that are great at teaching life skills aimed at both genders. I have listed
these below. These books cover multiple areas. For books on a particular
subject ... please look under the appropriate heading.
Life
Skills for Kids: Equipping Your Child For The Real World by Christine
Field
Plants
Grow Up
Contenders
of Faith
Man
in Demand
Christian
Manhood
Preparing Your Son For Every Man's Battle
Boyhood
and Beyond by Bob Schultz. I read this with my 7 year
old. Not everything he understood but it gave us some things to talk about and
some things to think about. I have planted seeds in his mind on what it means
to be a man when he is older. This book is intended for a pre-teen and I am
planning on having him re-read it then on his own.
Created
for Work by
Bob Schultz
Raising
A Modern Day Knight
Books
For Boys
I got this from RR and it has been great. It is a small
booklet with boy books at various levels. Looking for something gross, wars,
heroes your boys can look up to .... this book can help you find suggestions.
Bringing
Up Boys by Dr. James Dobson. This is one
for the parents to read. This gives some insight on what boys think, how they
thrive, how to discipline them and more. If you have boys, I recommend that
you have a copy of this in your home.
Future
Men
Preparing
Sons to Provide for a Single-Income Family by Steven Maxwell
God's Wisdom for Little Boys by Jim & Elizabeth
George
Chores:
18
months - PK:
- Help
with picking up
- Imitate
cleaning in play
- Can
put things in trash when asked
- Can
bring things to you when asked
- Cooperates
with directions given
- Helps
make the bed by placing pillow and stuffed animals on bed after it is made
- Helps
put dirty laundry in the laundry basket
PK-K:
- Pick
up toys and belongs; put in proper places
- Put
Away Laundry Piles
- Sort
Laundry
- Help
younger siblings
- Help
mom or dad upon request
- Put
plate and cup on counter near sink
- Set
the table
- Turns
off lights when leaving a room
1st-3rd
grade:
- Carry
laundry and have it remain folded correctly to the rooms it goes in
- Fold
laundry
- Unload
the dishwasher
- Make
Bed independently
- Feeds
pets
- Empty
small trash can
- Help
bring in groceries
- Vacuum
- Dust
- Knows
address, phone number, and full name
- Know
full names of parents and siblings
- Street
Safety
- Knows
to look both ways before crossing street (Stop, Look, and Listen rule)
- Knows
to always cross in the crosswalk or at a corner
- Knows
what the meaning of stop lights are (and each color)
- Knows
what a stop sign is
4th-6th
grade:
- Load
the dish washer/wash dishes
- Start
a load of laundry and complete it ... to where everything is put away
neatly
- Clear
table and put away left overs, etc.
- Empty
trash cans
- Put
away groceries without help
- Wash
Windows
- Clean
bathroom counters and sink
- Clean
Microwave
- Sweep
Tile (or vacuum it like I do)
- Answering
Door
7th
grade - adult:
- Clean
entire bathroom
- Mop
floors
- Clean
oven
- Clean
Refrigerator
- Defrost
Freezer
- Handling
Solicitors
- Important
Papers
- What
are they
- How
to keep them safe (filing in a fire safe box)
- Knows
what to use to clean any surface in the home, where to purchase it, and
how to clean that surface without any outside help from mom or dad
- Able
to see what needs to be done and does it on his own
Car
Repair and Maintenance:
PK-K:
-
Knows general safety rules about car.
- Wear
seat belt, sitting still facing forward
- No
screaming or loud noises in car
- Never
go near a car when its running
1st
- 3rd grade:
- Learning
the names for various parts of the car
-
How Our Car Works by Larry Burkett
Other:
- Changing
the Oil
- Fixing
a Flat Tire
- Changing
the Wiper Blades
- Filling
Brake Fluid
- Filling
Transmission Fluid
- Maintenance
Checks
- Putting
on Snow Chains
- De-Icing
a Windshield
- Wash
a car
- Wax
a car
- Detail
a car
- Change
the spark plugs
- Change
the oil filter
- Change
the air filter
- Putting
air in the tires
- Checking
the tire pressure
- Filling
the window washer fluid
- Tightening
belts
- Fixing
the breaks
- Learning
the parts to a car
- Changing
a fuse
- Changing
a light bulb
- Putting
on the tags
- Vehicle
registration
- Getting
insurance
- Driver’s
education
- Defensive
driving course
- Learning
to drive a stick and an automatic
- How
to stabilize a car and use a jack
- How
to put gas in a car
- How
to get estimates for work that needs to be done
- For
your car
- For
your home
- Purchasing
car parts
- Comparing
prices
- Where
to go
- What
to do when your car breaks down
- On
a freeway
- In
the middle of the street
- In
the middle of no where
- In
an emergency
- How
to tell when something is wrong with the car
- Gauges
indicating there is a problem
- Smoking
- Strange
noises
- What
to do when your car overheats
Home
Repair and Maintenance:
PK-K:
-
Visit
Home Improvement Store and become familiar with the various sections and
types of things they carry
-
Plant
a garden, learn to care for it with assistance
-
Pull
weeds with assistance
-
Water
with assistance
-
How
to clean up spills
-
How Our House Works
by Larry Burkett
1st
- 3rd Grade:
-
Raking
leaves
- Cleaning
deck furniture
- Shoveling
Snow
-
Sweeping
sidewalks
-
Using
phone functions (caller id, speeding dialing, etc)
-
How
to Climb a Ladder Safely
-
Bug
killing
-
Recognizes
non-poisons bugs
-
Able
to step on them or squish them with a paper towel and throw them in the
trash
-
Hosing
off sidewalks
-
Proper
care of tools
Proper
use of tools - Hammer
- Pliers
- Screw
drivers (Phillips, flathead)
- Sockets
- Wrenches
- Hand
saws
- Power
tools
- Drills
- Tape
measure
- Safety
equipment
- Dust
mask or respirator
- Leather
gloves
- Goggles
- Hard
hat
- Steel-toed
boots
-
Learn
about various trades and equipment used
4th
-6th Grade:
- Cleaning
the bar-b-que
- Grocery
Shopping
- How
to pick fresh produce
- Checking
for expiration dates
- Comparing
prices (price per unit)
- Furniture
Care
- Oiling
wood
- Oiling
leather
- Flipping
mattress
- Hiring
companies to clean
- Drapes
- Couches
- Other
items
- Basic
Sewing
- How
to sew on a button
- Repairing
a simple tear
- How
to Iron
- How
to Change a light bulb
- Painting
- Touch
ups
- Filling
holes
- How
to mask off
- Proper
lifting of heavy items
- Moving
Furniture and other items
- Connecting
electronics (i.e. TV, DVD, VCR, stereo)
- Getting
grease stains out of the garage
- When
to call a repair man
- Proper
way to clean up broken glass
- Disposing
of hazard materials
- Building
a bird house
- Staining
or Re-staining Furniture
7th
Grade - Adult:
- Pest
control (using raid or other products)
- Renting
Your First Apartment
- World's
Easiest Pocket Guide to Renting Your First Apartment
- Mowing
the yard
- Unclogging
sinks
- Fixing
appliances
- Garbage
disposal (reset button)
- Refrigerator
(adjusting temp)
- Washer
- Dryer
- Freezer
- Fixing
leaks
- Wall
Paper
- Hanging
Pictures
- Cleaning
a pool
- How
to use a weed wacker
- How
to trim a tree
- How
to trim a bush
- Cleaning
gutters
- Tune
up a lawn mower
- How
to replace door locks
- Basic
plumbing
- Turning
water off at appliance
- Turning
water off at the main (to the whole house)
- Unclogging
the toilet
- Unclogging
the drain
- Cleaning
the drain
- Replacing
a u-joint
- Unclogging
a garbage disposal
- Fixing
a running toilet
- How
to Replace a Washer
- How
to protect pipes from freezing
- Fixing
a leaking toilet
- Basic
tile installation
- Basic
electrical
- Turning
electricity off to appliance
- Circuit
Breakers
- Turning
off the main
- Turning
off to various parts of the home
- Proper
labeling
- How
to repair a drive way
- How
to add a sidewalk with either brick or concrete
- Relocating
- Shampoo
the Carpet
- How
to cut firewood
- Better
Homes & Gardens ... Making a Home: Housekeeping for Real Life (This book
covers more than just cleaning. This is a how-to guide for every aspect of
your home from purchasing items including furniture to etiquette and
entertaining. From stain removal to organization. A must have for every one
of your children as they prepare to take on the world along. ISBN:
0-696-21203-x)
- Constructing
simple shelves
- Assembling
furniture and other items
- How
to turn the gas off to an appliance
- How
to turn the gas off to the house
- Simple
Drywall Repair
- Basic
Landscaping principles
- Protect
plants from freezing
A
Man's Tool Box:
We
feel that it is important for every young man to leave home with a well-stocked
quality toolbox. When our sons begin first grade, they each received a toolbox
with his initials clearly on it (so as not confuse with Dads or brothers) and a
few tools. The first tools our sons received were a level, a tape measure, and
safety goggles. Each year, as they learn more about the home and cars ... they
will get new tools to add to their collection. Their tools represent things that
they have learned to do. Whenever a project is to be done.... each little man
gets out his own tools. All toolboxes are located in the garage, where they
belong. When our oldest son got his, our little ones felt left out so we bought
them aprons at the home improvement store. They were just as thrilled with this
and their toy tools as big brother with the toolbox. Just a note, Kris got his
apron and first set of tools (plastic in a plastic tool box) when he was a year
old. These have been a favorite ever since. They also have play hard hats.
Manners:
18
months - PK:
- Says
Please
- Says
Thank you
- Says
Your Welcome
- Sits
or Stands quietly during a short family prayer time
- Says
Excuse me
- Waits
to start eating until after a prayer has been said
A Boy's First Book of Manners
PK-K:
- Says
yes/no ma'am/sir
- Says
God Bless you for sneezes and coughs
- Open
some doors for mom and sisters (depends on weight of door)
- Child
learns not to interrupt
- Child
answers phone with "------- residence. Please hold." and nothing
else even if it is Dad or Grandma on the other line. You never know if he is
mistaking a voice or not. How many times have you made that same mistake
even as an adult?
-
Everyday Graces
1st-3rd
grade:
- Can
answer phone and take messages when needed
- Holds
doors for elderly, woman, when someone needs help
- Offers
assistance when appropriate
-
Little Book of Manners for Boys
- Treats
others with Respect at all times
18
months - PK:
- Washes
hands with help
- Tend
to potty needs with help
- Requires
help dressing self
- Requires
help brushing teeth
PK-K:
- Washes
hands alone
- Tends
to potty needs alone
- Brushes
Teeth alone
- Some
assistance needed with bathing but beginning to do it on own
- Brushes
hair with minimal assistance
- Sex
Education
-
The Story of Me (God's Design For Sex Series)
- Knows
that he is a boy
- Knows
differences between boys and girls, moms and dads
- Stranger
Danger
- Knows
what a stranger is
- Knows
who to go to for helps
- Knows
what to do if separated from parents
1st-3rd
grade:
- Sex
Education
-
Before I was Born (God's Design For Sex Series)
- What
is an Emergency
- Beginning
First Aid
-
The Kids Guide
to First Aid
- Introduce
the topic of drugs and alcohol
- What
is peer pressure
- How
to say no
- Smoking
- Living
a Healthy life style
- Proper
nutrition
- Exercise
- How
to handle stress properly
4-6th
grade:
- How
to tie a tie
- Cleaning
up vomit
- Deodorant
and cologne
- Sex
Education
-
What's The Big Deal (God's Design For Sex Series)
- CPR
- Knows
how to purchase own clothing and shoes
- Shopping
on a budget
- Purchasing
what you need first then what you want
- Finding
out if you can afford your wants
- Knowing
your sizes
- How
to tell if things fit properly
7th-adult:
- How
to shave
- Sex
Education
-
Facing the Facts (God's Design For Sex Series) -- to be done around
7th grade or so.
- What
is a menstrual cycle
- Uncomfortable
- Why
the blood
- No
derogatory remarks
- Caring
for an illness
- Routine
Medical Care
- How
to talk with medical professionals
- Explaining
the problem
- When
to go
- Importance
of yearly exams
- Family
medical history
- Refresher
course on CPR for all age groups; get a card
- How
to trim hair
- Making
sure side burns are even
- How
to get a haircut
- Comparing
costs
- Describing
what you want
- Where
to go
- Matters
of Self-Control
- Sexually
and otherwise ... (I think you all know what I mean here and some of
the resources at the top helps you prepare your little man for this as
he grows. Now we are expecting him to do this on his own. All the
time.)
Basics
to work on through out:
- Basic
first aid
- Administers
medication to others
- Visit
the following websites for specific information
- Creating
a First Aid Kit
- Visit
the following websites for list of supplies
- Disaster/Emergency
Preparations
- Visit the
following sites for specific information:
- Take
an Emergency Management Course at your local College
PK-K:
- How
to make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich
- How
to pour himself a drink
- Assists
with baking
Other:
- Baking
bread
- Cooking
a meal
- Proper
nutrition
- The
food pyramid
- Using
the microwave
- Using
the oven
- Using
the stove
- Using
other kitchen appliances
- Chopping
veggies
- Slicing
fruit
- Grating
cheese
- How
to follow a recipe
- Food
safety during preparations
- Meat
temperatures for safe cooking
- Get
a food handlers card
- How
to make coffee, tea, hot cocoa
- How
to handle knives
- How
to sharpen Knives
- Hot
Oil Safety
- Use
of a fire extinguisher
- What
to do if there is a....
- Grease
fire
- Electrical
fire
- General
fire
- Throwing
a ball
- Catching
a ball
- Kicking
a ball
- Basic
Rules for
- Football
- Baseball
- Basketball
- Hockey
- Soccer
- Pool
- Golf
- Tennis
- Volleyball
- Swimming
- Diving
- Rock
Climbing
- Hiking
- Push
Ups
- Pull
Ups
- Sit
Ups
- Arm
Wrestling
- Olympic
sports
- Self
defense course
- Karate
- Boxing/Wrestling
- Skiing
- Snowboarding
- Ice
Skating
- Roller
Skating
- Lifting
Weights
- Aerobics
- Stretching
- Warming
up and Cooling Down
- Riding
a Bike
- Playing
team sports
- Sportsmanship
- Being
a great loser
- Being
a humble winner
- Dancing
Outdoor and Survival
Skills:
- Camping
- How
to put up a tent
- What
to pack
- Where
to go
- Rules
for safety
- Collecting
firewood
- Starting
a fire
- Bar-b-Queuing
- Starting
a fire
- How
to tell when its done
- What
to do when encountering a wild animal
- What
to do when lost
- What
to do during a flood
- How
to tie a know
- Able
to identify common plants and animals to the area where you live
- Can
use a compass
- Boiling
water for safe drinking
- How
to plan a trip
- Budget
- Map
reading
- Safety
precautions
- Transportation
issues
- Home
preparations for natural disasters. i.e. what to do during a
- Hurricane
- Tornado
- Earth
quake
- Flood
- Firearms
- How
to clean
- Registering
- How
to care for
- How
to use
- Where
to store it
- Naming
various parts
- Types
Finances:
PK-K:
- Lets Go To The Store
by Larry Burkett
- Lets Count by Larry
Burkett
1st-3rd Grade:
-
All About Money by
Larry Burkett
- How to save money
-
Money Matters for Kids by
Larry Burkett
-
World's Easiest Pocket
Guide to Your First Savings Plan by Larry Burkett (This should be
read aloud to your child. They can re-read it on there own later for a
refresher course.
- Open up a savings account in the child's name
4th - 6th Grade:
- Money Matters for Kids
Planner by Larry Burkett
7th grade - Adult:
-
Money Matters for Teens Book and 
Workbook by Larry Burkett
- How To Rent an Apartment
Renting Your First Apartment by Larry Burkett
- How to purchase a home
-
World's Easiest Pocket
Guide to Buying Your First House by Larry Burkett
- How to purchase a car
-
Buying Your First Car by Larry Burkett
- How to purchase furniture
- How to make investments
 World's Easiest Pocket
Guide to Planning Your First Investment by Larry Burkett
- The Stock Market
- How to balance a check book
- How to open a bank account
- Tithing
- Donating to charities
- How to write a check
- no SSN number on the check
- numbers as words
- no empty spaces
- your signature
- making a budget (and sticking to it!)
- Choosing a loan by comparing interest rates
- Financial Planning
-
World's Easiest Pocket
Guide to Creating Your First Financial Plan by Larry Burkett
Resource: Rich
Dad, Poor Dad for Teens
- Credit Cards
-
Getting Your First Credit Card by
Larry Burkett
- Preparing Tax Forms
- Doing it yourself vs. hiring an accountant
Dating:
- How to buy flowers
- How to make dinner reservations
- Planning a night out (focusing on things you both like to
do or she likes to do ... not just what you want.)
- Getting a baby sitter (okay ... this could also be a
fatherhood skill but I stuck it here.)
- Buying appropriate gifts
- Remembering important dates
- Conflict Resolution
- Abstinence and other options
- Sex Education (see self care for specifics)
- Personality Types
- Basic Psychology
- Dating Rules
- Characteristics of a spouse
- How to buy jewelry
Preparing
For Fatherhood:
- How to Change a Diaper
- How to Make a bottle
- How to pack a diaper bag
- How to Give baby a bath
- proper temp
- what to use
- those funny little hooded towels
- The cost of little people
- planning for their futures (wedding, college)
- all those things they need
- all those things they want
- medical expenses both before and after the are born
- paying for an education (private school, home school,
extra-curricular activities)
Job Skills and College:
- Saving/Preparing For College
Preparing For College by Larry Burkett
- College Admission Applications
- Getting Your First Job
World's Easiest Pocket Guide To Finding Your
First Full Time Job by Larry Burkett
- How to Write a Resume
- Job Interviews
- what to wear
- what to expect
- what to say
- sending a thank you letter afterwards
- Filling out a job application
- Internships
- Exploring various Careers
- Online resume sites
- Head Hunters
- Time Management Skills
- Setting Priorities
- Organizational Skills
- Computers
- Basic Understanding of popular programs ... Microsoft
- Word
- Excel
- Powerpoint
- Access
- Email Etiquette
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